Good Women Don’t Have Bad Taste in Men — Narcissistic Men Simply Have Good Taste in Good Women

Reclaiming Your Identity After Narcissistic Abuse

If you loved a narcissist, you’ve probably asked yourself questions like:

“Why did I stay?” “How did I not see it?” “What’s wrong with me?”

Sister, hear this in love:

Nothing is wrong with you. You didn’t choose a narcissist because you’re weak, foolish, or naïve.

You chose him because you are good.

Good women are compassionate, loyal, hopeful, forgiving, and loving — qualities every healthy man values. These same qualities make you a prime target for someone who needs admiration, control, and emotional supply.

This blog is your reminder: You are not to blame. You are not broken. And your future can look nothing like your past — if you choose healing.

Let’s talk about why narcissists seek out good women… and how you can reclaim your identity, your voice, and your power.

Why Narcissistic Men Pursue Good Women

1. They crave admiration.

Narcissists feed on attention and validation. They are drawn to women who naturally encourage, nurture, and support. You became his supply — not because you were weak, but because you were generous.

2. They see her goodness as a challenge.

To a narcissist, winning over a woman with integrity feels like a trophy. Your values became a mountain he wanted to climb — not to cherish, but to conquer.

3. Her empathy makes manipulation easier.

Good women try to understand motives, extend grace, and believe the best. He exploited your compassion, turning it into a tool of control.

4. They want to steal her light.

Your confidence, faith, peace, and joy are qualities he envied. By attaching himself to you, he felt more important — all while slowly draining your glow.

5. They know she’ll stay longer than she should.

Because you believe in love, redemption, and second chances, you kept hoping he would change — not seeing that he never intended to.

6. They want validation without effort.

You offered encouragement, praise, and emotional energy — while he gave as little as possible. This imbalance was intentional.

7. They see her strength as fuel for their ego.

Your success and strength became his accessory.He didn’t want to partner with you — he wanted to display you.

8. They know she’ll protect their image.

You protected his reputation because you believed in loyalty.He relied on your grace to keep his darkness hidden.

9. They’re addicted to the high of her love.

A good woman loves deeply. Narcissists know they will never encounter that kind of devotion elsewhere — so they latch on hard.

10. Because deep down, they know she is everything they’re not.

Your light exposed his emptiness. Your truth threatened his lies. Your love revealed his lack.

And that is why he both wanted you — and resented you.

Why You Must Stop Blaming Yourself

Narcissistic relationships are built on:

• Manipulation

• Confusion

• False promises

• Performances

• Emotional addiction

No one “chooses” abuse. No one walks in knowingly. He did not show you who he truly was — because if he had, you would’ve never stayed.

You were lied to. You were groomed. You were deceived.

You didn’t stay because you were foolish — you stayed because you were hopeful.

That deserves compassion… not shame.

Forgiving Yourself Is Part of the Healing

You may feel angry at yourself for:

• Ignoring red flags

• Believing his words

• Making excuses

• Wanting to fix him

• Staying too long

But Sister…You did what every good woman does — you tried to love someone into wholeness.

It wasn’t stupidity. It was loyalty.

Forgive the version of you who tolerated behavior while hoping for love. She didn’t know better — but now you do.

And knowing better is where freedom begins.

Why Your Healing Matters Now

Healing is no longer optional.

If you don’t heal:

• You keep internalizing the lies he spoke over you

• You stay in survival mode

• You blame yourself for his sins

• You lose confidence, clarity, and identity

• You repeat the same painful cycles

But when you begin healing, everything changes.

Healing helps you:

✅ Rebuild your identity

✅ Untangle truth from manipulation

✅ Restore your self-worth

✅ Set boundaries

✅ Recognize healthy love

✅ Break trauma bonds

✅ Choose differently next time

The goal isn’t to fix him — it’s to restore you.

The Truth About Your Identity

He tried to:

• Steal your voice

• Break your spirit

• Confuse your mind

• Dim your light

• Silence your intuition

But he did not destroy you. Your identity was never his to take.

Who you are was formed by God — not shaped by a narcissist.

It’s time to rise. To rebuild. To return to who you were before his chaos entered your life…and who you are meant to become beyond it.

You Are Not Alone

Every day, thousands of women put their lives back together after narcissistic abuse — and not only recover…They become wiser, stronger, more discerning, and more aligned with purpose than ever before.

And so will you.

Because healing is available. Hope is real. And you deserve safety, truth, and love.

Next Step: Begin Your Inner Healing Journey

If this resonates, it’s not by accident. You were led here because your heart is ready for more:

✨ More peace

✨ More clarity

✨ More identity

✨ More healing

Your transformation begins with one decision:

To choose YOU again.

Inside The Inner Healing Journey Method™, you’ll learn how to:

• Break trauma bonds

• Rewire survival patterns

• Rebuild your identity

• Regain your voice

• Restore confidence

• Reclaim your worth

• Create emotional, spiritual, and relational safety

You don’t have to heal alone. You don’t have to keep blaming yourself. You don’t have to stay stuck.

You are worthy of the life God designed for you.

I’m here to walk with you.

Your healing begins today.

JILL | INNER HEALING COACH

@innerhealingcoach

Helping women reclaim their worth, restore their voice, and walk in healing.

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