Healing After Domestic Violence: Nervous System Recovery

When I first left, I thought healing was only a matter of therapy and prayer. What I didn’t realize was how deeply abuse inhabits your body—your nervous system, your bones, your breath. One of the tools I’ve used in my journey is something simple yet profound: the vibration plate.

In this video, I show how I use it to calm my body, release trauma-held tension, and begin trusting peace again. Today, I want to unpack why this matters, how it works, and how you can use it (safely) too.

Why Recovery Must Include the Body (Not Just the Mind)

Trauma doesn’t live only in your thoughts. It resides in your nervous system.
Abuse often leaves your body in chronic fight-or-flight mode—tightness, tremors, hypervigilance, insomnia. Healing must include regulation of your nervous system.
Tools that help your body physically can often unlock emotional, spiritual, and mental healing more fully.

What the Vibration Plate Does for Nervous System Healing

Mechanical vibration helps loosen tension. The gentle oscillations move tissues, improve circulation, and can reduce muscle holding patterns.
Stimulates the lymphatic system. This helps waste and toxins move out of your body, which is important when your system is stuck in “defend” mode.
Offers micro-movements your body can adapt to. For a nervous system that’s hyperactivated, small, controlled physical stimuli can encourage a return to balance.
Supports breath, grounding, and presence. As your body relaxes, your mind can follow. You can begin to inhale deeply, exhale fear, and settle.

How I Use My Vibration Plate (Step-by-Step)

Start gentle: low speed (if adjustable) for 1–2 minutes
Focus on grounding: feet rooted, slight bend in knees, soft core
Combine with breath: inhale to 4, exhale to 6
After the session: rest, stretch, or journaling—don’t jump into a high-stakes task right away
Listen to your body: if you feel dizzy, anxious, or unsafe, stop and rest.

Precautions & What I Wish Someone Told Me

This is not a substitute for medical or therapeutic care.
If you have physical conditions (pregnancy, herniated discs, cardiovascular issues), please consult your doctor first.
Don’t push through trauma-triggering pain. Start slow.
Pair it with emotional and spiritual care (therapy, prayer, community).
Use it consistently but gently; regulation is a slow, many-small-steps process.

Stories of Breakthrough (Personal Reflection)

In my own journey, there were days when the vibration plate felt like magic—I felt tension melt out of my shoulders, tears I couldn’t name released, and for the first time in years, my body said “safe.”

I’m still walking through the shadows. There are seasons I can’t use it because my body is too tender. But it has become one of the tools I trust when I need a reminder: my body is mine to reclaim.

A Prayer & Practice for You (If You Try This Today)

“Lord, let this body that has known fear begin to know peace again. Let each gentle vibration remind my cells of safety and wholeness. You are restoring me—mind, body, and spirit.”

If you try it today, go gentle. Be patient. Let it be part of your rhythm of care—not the whole of it.

Your Next Steps

Download my Safe & Sacred Tools (ebooks) to help you rebuild your mind, body, and identity
Share your small “after-effects” with me (in DMs or comments)—what did your body feel? What emotions rose?
If you’re in immediate danger or experiencing abuse right now, please call 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) or visit thehotline.org

“You are more than what happened to you. Your body is sacred. And healing is possible—one steady breath, one vibration, one day at a time.”

Take Your Power Back

You don’t have to keep drowning in silence. You don’t have to keep sacrificing your peace, your safety, or your God-given identity.

I created The Inner Healing Journey Method™ and a collection of faith-based, trauma-informed tools because I know what it feels like to lose yourself—and what it takes to rebuild.

✨ Inside, you’ll find resources to help you: