A Healed Woman Attracts a Healed Love

“She is clothed with strength and dignity, and she laughs without fear of the future.”

— Proverbs 31:25

When Your Healing Prepares You for the Man God Sends

This is the question women ask me more than any other:

“Where are the good men?”

“Where are the strong men?”

“Where are the men who heal… who lead… who protect?

"Where are the Kings?

Healthy men aren’t gone.

Safe men aren’t rare.

Emotionally available men aren’t hiding.

But when your nervous system is wired for survival…when your heart has learned to brace instead of trust…when your body has been trained to expect inconsistency…

you stop seeing what’s safe, and you start normalizing what hurts.

They are simply invisible to women who haven’t healed enough to see them.

You don’t meet them in spaces built for distraction.

You don’t meet them in places built for validation.

You don’t meet them in environments built for escape.

A King does not live there.

A King lives by discipline.

By devotion.

By growth.

By restraint.

By vision.

By faith.

He is not chasing women — he is becoming the man worthy of the woman he will one day protect.

You’ll find him:

• In the gym before sunrise

• In yoga studios learning presence

• In breathwork circles breaking generational wounds

• In men’s groups speaking truth

• In leadership rooms becoming a builder

• In spiritual spaces deepening faith

• In silence instead of chaos

• In books instead of scrolling

• In prayer instead of pride

• In purpose instead of pleasure

Kings are never found in entertainment.

They are found in evolution.

“For we are God’s masterpiece. He has created us anew in Christ Jesus.”

— Ephesians 2:10

But here’s the truth most women don’t want to face:

You will never recognize a King if you haven’t committed to becoming a Queen.

Not perfection.

But devotion.

Not flawlessness.

But self-respect.

Not performance.

But embodiment.

“Forget the former things; do not dwell on the past. See, I am doing a new thing.”

— Isaiah 43:18–19

A man who leads himself will not choose a woman who abandons herself.

If you want a man with discipline -you must learn self-control.

If you want a man with direction -you must stop tolerating chaos.

If you want a man who faces his shadow — you must meet your own.

If you want a man who chooses you intentionally — you must stop settling emotionally.

You don’t attract Kings by searching.

You attract Kings by rising.

“The Lord your God is with you, the Mighty Warrior who saves. He will take great delight in you.” — Zephaniah 3:17

He doesn’t fall in love with potential —He falls in love with clarity.

Boundaries.

Peace.

Softness supported by strength.

Strength wrapped in grace.

A regulated nervous system.

A healed identity.

And here’s the part no one tells you:

When you become that woman:

You won’t chase him.

You won’t beg him. You won’t wonder.

You’ll meet him already walking —Already building —Already ready.

And he will not hesitate.

He will not disappear.

He will not confuse you.

Because Kings recognize Queens.

And healed people recognize healed people long before words are spoken.

You are not looking for him.

You are walking toward him.

And he is walking toward you.

But hear me clearly, woman of God:

You don’t become that Queen by accident.

And you don’t rise into her by willpower.

You rise by healing.

“Arise, shine, for your light has come, and the glory of the Lord rises upon you.”

 — Isaiah 60:1

She didn’t rise to prove a point.

She rose because she finally knew her worth.

She no longer shrinks to be loved, bends to be chosen, or settles to feel safe.

She stands fully in who she is — steady, soft, discerning, and whole.

The man meant to walk beside her won’t need to be convinced.

He will recognize her because he has done the work too.

She isn’t waiting.

She isn’t chasing.

She is becoming — and that is what makes her impossible to ignore.

“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.”

— 1 Corinthians 13:4

That’s why I created Redeeming Your Love — Safe & Sacred Dating After Abuse & Divorce.

Not to teach you how to “get a man”…

But to heal you into the woman who no longer entertains anything beneath a King.

Because without healing — you repeat.

Without healing — you tolerate.

Without healing — you open doors that destroy you.

And your future husband?

He is not built for the unhealed version of you.

Your King is not found.

He is matched.

And the work begins inside you.

Start where Queens are forged.➡ Redeeming Your Love

With love and honor,

JILL | INNER HEALING COACH

@innerhealingcoach

Helping women reclaim their worth, restore their voice, and walk in healing.

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