The church told me to pray more, submit more, and stay longer. And the Catholic Church made sure I knew I was going to hell if I left. Every message induced fear. And fear kept me further from God and the truth that would have set me free. Prayer is powerful. But it does not override free will. You cannot pray away a harvest someone is actively choosing to grow.

Ending a relationship with a narcissist is not a normal breakup. It is a slow unraveling of a reality you didn’t even know was being rewritten around you. People who haven’t lived it ask, “Why can’t you just move on?" As if healing is a switch you flip. As if trauma leaves your body because you decided it should . But you’re not just grieving a person. You’re grieving an illusion your nervous system still clings to. You fell in love with a version of them that never truly e

Leaving a narcissist isn’t a breakup—it’s waking up from an emotional war you never knew you were fighting. You’re not just grieving a person, but the illusion your nervous system still clings to. The real heartbreak isn’t losing them—it’s realizing how much of yourself you lost. Healing begins not when you understand them, but when you forgive yourself and reclaim your peace, clarity, and worth.