Red Flags - 30 Days of Wellness

Good Morning Sweet Sister! Let's start this week of wellness off with some powerful truths that I truly hope you share!

What I'm about to share touches on a very personal subject and one I'm passionate about. It's the main reason behind my certifications and deep desire to help just one woman not make the same choices I did that led me to abusive relationships since I was a teen girl. What I didn't know then but do now could literally save lives.

Knowing red flags in a relationship is crucial because recognizing unhealthy behaviors early can prevent escalation, emotional harm, and allow for better choices about the relationship, ultimately leading to healthier relationships overall. 

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20 Red Flags at the Beginning of a Relationship

1. They move too fast: Love bombing, excessive flattery, or talking about marriage and soulmates within days or weeks can be a sign of manipulation.

2. They don’t respect your boundaries:

If they push you into things you’re uncomfortable with—emotionally, physically, or sexually—it’s a major red flag.

3. They badmouth all their exes: If every past relationship ended because the other person was “crazy” or “toxic,” they might be the common denominator.

4. They try to isolate you: If they discourage you from spending time with family and friends, they may be trying to control your support system.

5. They get jealous easily: Jealousy may seem flattering at first, but excessive suspicion and accusations can turn into control and possessiveness.

6. They dismiss your feelings: If they downplay your concerns or make you feel silly for expressing emotions, they may lack empathy or emotional maturity.

7. They don’t take responsibility for mistakes: If they always have an excuse and never admit fault, they likely won’t be accountable in the relationship either.

8. They guilt-trip you: If they make you feel guilty for setting boundaries, saying no, or prioritizing your needs, that’s manipulation.

9. They’re rude to service workers: How they treat waitstaff, cashiers, or anyone they consider “beneath” them reveals a lot about their character.

10. They lie, big or small: Even small lies early on can indicate a habit of dishonesty that may grow over time.

11. They ignore your needs: If they consistently talk about themselves but don’t ask about you or listen when you share, they may be self-absorbed.

12. They’re controlling in small ways: It may start as choosing what you wear, what you eat, or making all the plans—over time, control can escalate.

13. They get angry over small things: If they lash out, overreact, or struggle to control their temper, it could become worse as the relationship progresses.

14. They test your loyalty: If they put you in uncomfortable situations to prove your commitment, they may have deep insecurity or manipulative tendencies.

15. They make you feel like you have to prove your worth: You shouldn’t feel like you’re constantly trying to “earn” their love or approval. Healthy love is mutual, not conditional.

16. They disrespect your time: If they cancel plans last minute, show up late without concern, or expect you to drop everything for them, they don’t value your time.

17. They don’t respect your personal space:

If they demand constant attention, check your phone, or push for cohabitation too soon, it may be a sign of control.

18. They make mean “jokes” at your expense: If their humor consistently puts you down and they brush it off as “just a joke,” it’s a sign of disrespect.

19. They make you question yourself: If you feel confused, insecure, or like you’re “overreacting” all the time, they may be gaslighting you.

20. You feel uneasy around them: Your intuition is powerful. If something feels off, trust that feeling—even if you can’t pinpoint why.

Don't ignore red flags. Love should always feel safe, supportive, and respectful.

If you are currently in an abusive relationship and need help, then please use the following resources immediately to get yourself (and any children involved) safe! National Domestic Violence Hotline at 800-799-7233 or you can contact the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline at 988.

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May God bless you on your inner healing journey!

Jill | INNER HEALING COACH

ICF Certified Somatic Integrated Trauma Informed Coach ™

CPD Accredited & Certified Integrated Trauma Informed Coach™

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