What God Really Hates: The Truth About Abuse, Divorce and the Woman Afraid to Leave
You've been told God hates divorce. But have you ever been shown what Scripture actually says?
It's 3 a.m. You're lying beside the man everyone at church admires, wondering how much longer you can live like this.
You've prayed. You've forgiven. You've tried counseling. You've asked for help.
And perhaps the most frightening words came from someone you trusted to speak for God.
You made a covenant. A good Christian wife stays. If you leave, you're disobeying God.
So you stay. Not because everything is okay, but because you're afraid that protecting yourself might cost you your relationship with God.
I know that fear. I lived it.
I was told leaving my abusive marriage was a sin against God's Word. I was even told I would go to hell.
That experience, and more than two decades of walking alongside women, is why I wrote What God Really Hates.
This book invites you to open Scripture for yourself, examine what you've been taught, and begin separating God's character from the people who used His name to control you.
INSIDE THIS BOOK
Across 14 chapters, you'll explore:
What God Actually Says About Divorce: Examine Malachi 2 in context and understand why the familiar statement about God hating divorce does not tell the whole story.
When Scripture Becomes a Weapon: Recognize how teachings about submission, forgiveness, purity, and marriage can be misused to excuse harm and demand compliance.
Is It Really Abuse? Understand the differences between a difficult marriage and patterns of emotional, financial, spiritual, physical, or sexual abuse.
The Man Everyone Admires: Make sense of the contradiction between his respected public image and what happens behind closed doors.
The Covenant He Was Responsible for Keeping: Explore what Scripture requires of husbands, including love, faithfulness, respect, and protection.
Forgiveness Without Going Back: Understand why forgiveness, reconciliation, trust, and access are not the same thing.
Meeting God Again: Begin examining painful religious teachings and rediscovering His character through Scripture.
Recognizing the Patterns: Develop greater discernment about control, manipulation, boundaries, and earned trust.
Considering Your Next Steps Safely: Understand the importance of confidential support, individualized safety planning, and informed decisions.
MORE THAN ANOTHER OPINION ABOUT DIVORCE
Every chapter includes Scripture, practical reflection, and three meaningful elements:
Your First Step: An action or reflection to help you begin applying what you've learned.
Truth for You: A biblical perspective to carry with you.
Be Still with This: A question to help you examine your own experience with honesty and discernment.
The book also begins with a personal letter from my heart to yours, because there are three things I want you to hear before anything else:
I see you. I believe you. And I am deeply sorry for the pain you have endured.
Written by Jill, women's advocate, writer, and speaker, drawing on more than two decades of walking alongside women, professional training, and her own lived experience.
You deserve to know what God's Word says for yourself. You deserve wise support. And your life is worth protecting.
If you've been afraid to question what you were taught, this book is a place to begin.
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Important: This book is educational and faith-based. It is not an individualized safety plan or a substitute for professional legal, financial, or domestic violence assistance. If you need confidential support, contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233 or thehotline.org.
JILL | INNER HEALING COACH
